European Vacation: Adventures in Rome - The Beginning

(Chevy Chase has got nuttin’ on us)

Well, we’re back from our very first European family vacation. We spent eight amazing days in Rome, Italy. We left on Saturday, April 4th, arriving in sunny Rome on Sunday afternoon. My hubby had done endless hours of research and booked a charming cost-effective Roman apartment for us, as opposed to two hotel rooms. (Four people aren’t allowed to stay in one hotel room, which contains only two twin-size beds and that’s all folks.)

Here are the kids outside our home-away-from-home at #43 Via Rodi, in Rome, Italy.

No, we’re not unusually small people (well, at least my hubby and the kids aren’t), all the doors in Rome are just really HUGE--which is interesting since most Italians we encountered were petite-to-normal height in stature. Perhaps ancient Romans were much more gladiator-sized? Something to think about.

Here’s the view from our seventh floor balcony.



Prettier at night, huh?


We quickly stowed our stuff and ventured out. It was around this point that I realized I’d forgotten to pack a few critical items. Things like, oh…

The map of the city! Our Italian/English dictionary! And all our travel guide books! Unbelievable! Well, if anybody was wondering how to make an already interesting trip even more interesting…

Armed with my far-from-fluent Spanish, and slightly more fluent English, we entered a neighborhood Tavola Calda. These are small kitchens that serve a variety of fresh, hot dishes. The owner greeted us warmly and did his best to explain the different types of food we were looking at. He served us some of his personal specialties, proud of the fact that he prepared everything fresh daily. We finished and left, but after walking in confused circles past his shop three times, he took pity on us and gave us a map to use. Gratzie!

We wandered the streets a bit, but still jet-lagged, we hit the hay early. We wanted to get a good night’s sleep to be in prime form for touring the city the next day. But as it turned out, a good night’s sleep was out of the question…

Around 3:40 a.m., my hubby and I were awakened by our bed rocking back and forth. My hubby’s first thought was that there was some, uh, “activity” occurring in a neighboring apartment. But then we noticed the floor and walls were rocking as well. While I drowsily pondered this strange occurrence, my quicker-thinking hubby leapt from the bed shouting, “EARTHQUAKE! Quick, everybody get into the stairwell!”

We scrambled out the door and raced down the steps in our jammies. By the time we reached about the fourth floor, we realized that nobody else in the building appeared to be freaking out like we were. While we stood there confused, one young apartment dweller opened her door a crack, and squinted out at us hovering on the staircase. She mumbled something unintelligible, then shut the door in our faces.

We looked at each other.

Hmmm. Maybe we imagined it? We pattered back up the stairs. All tucked back in, we were just starting to drift off when there was another rocking, more gentle this time.

“Daaaaad?” our son, Joshua’s voice quavered from the next room.
“I know. We feel it too,” I called back.
It finally stopped after a few seconds. Yeesh. Enough already!

Watching Italian television the next morning, we saw pictures of all the destruction that had taken place at the epicenter. We were grateful to have only been at the outside edge of this natural disaster. We ended up experiencing five total quakes (or according to Josh, one earthquake and four aftershocks) in five days. By the third aftershock, I wasn’t even fazed.

Earthquake, schmerthquake. No sweat. I’m used to it all now, baby.

We arose Monday morning, and headed to Vatican City. To help our kids enjoy all the art they were going to see, I’d created little cheat sheets for them. One covering the Renaissance period, and another the Baroque period. I wrote them in “regular” language and even included pictures so they wouldn’t be completely dry and boring. Or so I thought.

“Ugh! It’s supposed to be a vacation,” Joshua grumbled, taking his packet. “You’re not supposed to have homework on your vacation.”
“It’s not homework, I made it fun,” I said, annoyed. “I just want you to know what you’re looking at!”
This was greeted with enthusiastic eye rolling.
Hmph! I didn’t care. After all my hard work, I insisted everybody read what I’d written.

I later learned that my son only pretended to read his packet. He merely daydreamed, then flipped to the next page whenever he noticed his big sister turn her page. Hmmm. Now I’m wondering if my hubby was doing the same thing?

THE VATICAN

We explored the Vatican Museum for a few hours…





Then we entered the Sistine Chapel. It’s just as astounding as you might imagine. Roughly covering the area of a football field, it’s amazing to think that Michelangelo spent four years painting the colorful frescos on the altar’s upper walls and ceiling. And to think he painted this entire ceiling standing up, not lying down as I’d always imagined. Many people consider this the single greatest work of art by any one human being. I listened to my free Rick Steve’s audiotour on my iPod while my uninformed family members opted not to use theirs, just staring at the ceiling and walls, trying to figure everything out for themselves. Sniff.


Security guards maintained a hushed atmosphere as we craned our necks upward to take in Michelangelo’s portrayal of the history of Christianity from Creation to the Last Judgment. We stood directly under the painting of God on a cloud, reaching out his hand to give the newly created Adam the spark of life.

We noted the shriveled self-portrait of Michelangelo, dangling from the hand of St. Bartholomew in the Last Judgment scene.

And we couldn’t help but chuckle just a little at the lower right-hand corner of hell, where Michelangelo depicted his greatest critic, naked, but with a serpent twining up his torso to hide certain parts in a most uncomfortable-looking way.


We learned the Last Judgment scene was actually painted over 20 years later than the rest of the room. By this time in history, people no longer felt the naked forms of Renaissance art were appropriate. So after Michelangelo’s death, church authorities had strategically placed wisps of clothing added to the work.


ST. PETER’S BASILICA & SQUARE

We left the Vatican Museums and stepped into St. Peter’s Square which is actually an oval. (Still trying to figure that one out.) It was designed by the famous Baroque architect and sculptor, Gian Lorenzo Bernini. Around 2,000 years ago, this area was Emperor Nero’s Circus (which is old-fashioned Italian for a Roman chariot racecourse). The Egyptian obelisk here was the center of the course.


Two-hundred-eighty-four Doric columns now ring the perimeter of the oblong shape, symbolizing the arms of the church reaching out to welcome believers and unbelievers.




The square was filled with loads of people, lots of priest and nun sightings.


From there we moved on to explore St. Peter’s Basilica—the largest church in the world.


The Basilica was built on the grave of the apostle, Peter, who was crucified there around 65 A.D.



The Basilica has strict dress codes; no shorts or bare shoulders. We saw one twenty-something and her group turned away at the door due to her super-short shredded denim skirt. The altar and Michelangelo-designed dome of the Basilica are alleged to mark the exact location of Peter’s grave.



We wandered around the extravagant structure, each at our own pace. We were leaving the building when Josh casually mentioned he’d noticed a sculpture of Jesus lying in a lady’s arms. Yikes! I’d almost missed seeing one of Michelangelo’s most famous pieces, the Pieta! The crucified Christ in his mother’s arms was located behind protective glass and was surrounded by a small crowd. I managed to shove--er, ease my way to the front and snap a pic.

We got lost heading for home, and found a Gelataria instead. Gelato for dinner, everyone!

With aching feet, we finally trudged back, dragging ourselves to bed. After another “shaky” night, we were ready for lots more sightseeing.

Stay tuned for more Adventures in Rome!

Sistine Chapel images by: Sacred Destinations

This is a Test. This is Only a Test.


I’m starting to suspect I’m being tested on how to handle crises better. My hubby’s job has been requiring a lot more travel over the past few months. And lately, every time he goes out of town, something bad happens.

In January...


The day after he left for Europe, I heard a weird thumping sound as I drove my son through the neighborhood to his bus stop.

“Do you hear something?” I asked my normally observant son.
“It’s just the snow, Mom.” He responded confidently.

Why I take a 14-year-old’s word for stuff always amazes me, but I do. I thumped my way back home, aware the sound had grown even louder, and discovered I’d been driving on the rim of my flat-as-a-prairie tire. Blast it! Car stuff is SO not my area.

I called AAA crying, certain I’d destroyed my rims. As I waited for a tow truck, I gave myself a mental face slap and focused on the positives: at least I could wait in my warm house; and I had the insurance to cover AAA, as well as a new tire. When Mr. Tow Truck finished up, he thanked me for my positive attitude. I was feelin’ pretty cool.

Then, along came February...


This time, the day after hubby left my computer was struck by a virus—actually three viruses in 10 days. (For that whole story, click here.) Once again I cried in frustration. But ultimately battled the viruses and won thanks to the computer repair shop owner’s tips and advice.

So...now it's March...


Hubby left yesterday. Mhmm. Worst one yet, people.

I haven’t had a job interview since, oh…1993, I think. Well, I had one today. I was nervous, and spent hours preparing. I saw the kids off to school, and planned to hop in the shower immediately to meet my tight time schedule. Turned on the shower. Ice cold. Not getting hot.

Oh man, maybe that pilot light thingy is out, I thought. In a panic, I called my good friend.

“Can I come over and use your shower right now? I’ve got no hot water!”

She didn’t even hesitate. “Sure!” (Is she awesome or what?!)

I grabbed my towel and supplies, racing over in my pajamas. I showered quickly and was just leaving, when my friend said, “Do you know what’s wrong with the hot water?”
“No. I figured it’s the pilot light thingy.”
“That happened to us once, and it wasn’t the pilot light. The hot water heater actually broke and was leaking all over the basement.”


Uh-oh. Could the situation be even worse than I'd imagined?


I hustled home, raced to the basement and sure enough, water all over the floor--the heater spewing it out like a fountain.

Great. Just great.


Just once, why couldn’t the crisis be something like, “Oh no! Ashleigh’s entire soccer team needs their hair French braided this morning!” Or, “Uh-oh, we need two dozen brownies baked, by 10:00 a.m.!” Something I know how to handle. But no.

I called my plumber (Louie da Plumber--seriously!) and got his voicemail, “Louie, it’s Holly, and--” at this point I burst into tears, leaving a garbled message which even I could barely understand. I didn’t even remember to leave my phone number. He called me back seconds later. Through my sobbing and sniffling, he talked me through shutting off the water.

Even though he had a late morning appointment, just like me, he dropped his youngest daughter off at school and came directly to my house, arriving on his white horse—er truck. He followed me to the basement, making jokes the entire time, until my tears were dry and I was able to laugh again.

Thankfully, Louie was able to correct the problem. He even ran to the store, purchased a part, made it back, fixed it and finished without either of us missing our appointments. I told him I thought he was an angel, and he just laughed and rode away in his white truck.

Louie da Plumber ROCKS!

As I drove to my interview, I reflected on the fact that despite all these negative things that have been happening, I’ve had many moments of thankfulness come out of them. This time I’m grateful I had a close-enough, sweet-enough friend that I could use her shower on mere seconds notice. I’m grateful to have such an awesome, wonderful, caring plumber as Louie da Plumber. With everything that’s happened, God has really supplied what I’ve needed as I’ve needed it. And that ROCKS too!

I don’t know what next month will hold, but I’m really hoping the crisis is something along the lines of, “Oh dear, does anybody know a writer? We need one, stat!”

Image by: Anosmia

"But I Have Plans!" She Wailed


Guess what I did yesterday. Sat on my butt the entire day. Reading.

As much as I love reading, and sitting on my butt, I did not do this by choice.

I’m pretty sure the majority of moms out there can relate to what I’m about to say. (Except the really cool, balanced ones--and if you’re out there, please contact me immediately, I want all your secrets!)

Most moms aren’t very good at just sitting and doing nothing. Most of the time we’re multi-tasking. We’re folding laundry while we talk on the phone. We’re cooking dinner while quizzing our kid for an upcoming test. We’re sitting in the same room with everybody but we’re going through the mail, paying bills, filling out permission slips, signing school progress reports. Moms in general don’t get the whole, put-your-feet-up-and-take-a-break deal.

And for me personally, since I began freelance writing more steadily, I’ve gotten worse. I sort of realized I was becoming a bit of a work-a-holic, but shoved the thought into a dark corner of my mind where I felt it belonged. I didn’t want to sacrifice family time, friend time, or workout time, but without doing it intentionally, I instead sacrificed me time.

Whenever I pray for God to give me guidance about stuff, I typically add the caveat “…and God, puh-leeeze bonk me over the head with whatever you’re trying to tell me. You know how bad I am with the whole ‘still-quiet-voice’ thing.”

Well, a while back I was barreling along at top speed, when I developed a foot problem. Even though I knew it would help immensely if I stayed off my feet a bit more to let it heal completely, did I do it? No.

Then, I damaged my biceps muscle shoveling landscape rocks this past summer. Did I stop lifting things, allow others to help me, and just let it heal. Nope. Ended up overdoing it and having months of physical therapy instead. Like the Energizer Bunny I keep going and going. Pushing my body to keep up with my plans.

This reminds me of that scene in the movie Evan Almighty, where Evan is saying to God "…you have to understand this building an ark thing really isn't part of my plans here...” And Morgan Freeman, playing God, just bursts out laughing. “You have PLANS!! Baaahh, ha, ha, ha, ha!!!”

Well, since I obviously hadn’t gotten the message the first two times, this past weekend, I got bonked. But good.

I have absolutely no idea how it happened, but all of a sudden my right knee is giving me incredibly sharp, shooting pain whenever I try to bend/unbend it too far. My hubby, who has had three knee surgeries, wrapped it up like a burrito and had me sit with it elevated on an elaborate array of pillows yesterday. All day. From the time I got up, until the time I went to bed. I sat.

I read one of the Twilight series books I’ve been dying to read. Every so often I’d feel twinges of guilt, thinking I really should do a bit of work on the writing projects I have due this week. Or I’d pause to moan about what an inconvenient time this has occurred. (Like there’s a convenient time to damage your knee.)

Then I’d sigh, settle myself more comfortably against the pillows, squelch those feelings, and read some more. It’s not like there was anything I could do about it anyway. Unless God sent a miracle healing my way.

But maybe that’s exactly what He did. He probably said to Himself, “Okay, this chick really isn’t getting it. She wasn’t kidding about needing to be bonked over the head.” Boom. A forced R & R day. And you know what? It was so relaxing. I’m pretty sure the last time I spent that much time sitting on my butt reading a book was when I was in middle school.

So this morning, my knee is still wrapped, and I’m scheduled to see the orthopaedic knee surgeon on Thursday. Even though this would be an incredibly inconvenient time to have knee surgery. (Like there’s a convenient time to have knee surgery.)

But after my day of rest, I’m actually feeling creatively recharged. I’m ready to work. So people (especially you multi-tasking moms out there), I’m telling you now: take breaks. We’re supposed to. Don’t wait to get bonked over the…knee.

Image by: TomSaint11

Take That, You Low-life Virus!



It’s been a rough week and a half. It’s not only cold and flu season for my family, but for our computers as well. Over the past ten days, both of our computers have been attacked by viruses a total of three times.

First, my work computer went down for the count. The virus was sneaky and since I’d never experienced one before, I had no idea what I was dealing with. I called the computer shop where I’d purchased it, and before I could even complete a sentence describing what was happening, the owner of the shop interrupted me. (He’s from down south, so picture the following in a southern drawl.)

“Ma’am, I’m sorry to interrupt you, ma’am, but I need to stop you right there. Your computer is being attacked by a virus right now, here’s what I need you to do…”

As I hyperventilated, he walked me through the steps, but unfortunately, it was too late. The virus had infiltrated my system too far. I had to take it in to be “cleaned.”

Two days later, I had it back and I was singing with joy…for about 24 hours. Then it was attacked again! I tried to eliminate the stupid virus, but to no avail. The virus’ evil tactics prevailed and it won again. Unbelievably, I had to take it back to the shop.

I picked it up yesterday afternoon. Once again, singing with joy to have my old friend back and healthy. I had just arrived home from the repair shop, and set it on the floor of our home office. I hadn’t even plugged it in yet. I was talking to my daughter while my son researched information for an upcoming school project on our back-up computer. Suddenly I heard his quiet voice, “Mom, our computer is being attacked by a virus right now.”

I’d like to say I set a wonderful example for my children. I’d like to say I took it all in stride, focusing on the fact that we at least had my computer back before the virus struck the only other working computer with Internet connection in the house.

But no.

I sat down on the floor and threw a very loud tantrum. I cried and cried, shoving my two children away as they tried to comfort me. (I apologized later.) When I was done, I wiped my eyes. Blew my nose. Said a prayer. And then got really, really angry. No way was this slimeball virus gonna beat me again, blast it!

I prepared for battle.

From my last two forays dealing with this virus, I had learned a few things. I geared up my arsenal and quickly created a battle plan. I clicked on the screen and the virus attacked. I counterattacked, trying to close the trick messages warning me that I had multiple viruses and needed to upgrade and purchase some scam software.

The virus attacked again. This time I merely side-stepped the jab, dragging the warning message aside and opening the new anti-spyware I’d installed. I quickly ordered my army to run a scan. The evil contaminated message hung there. Open. Waiting.

The scan completed, and I immediately rebooted. Several messages flashed before my eyes. I could barely read them as the screen flickered and jumped. “Multiple viruses,” “Program not responding,” Program Ending,” “End Now.”

Yeah, END NOW you low-life scum sucker!

The screen went black. The computer lay dormant for a second. Was it dead? I waited and held my breath. Then I heard it. The sound of the computer coming alive again. But the game was not over yet. I did not go online, but in an aggressive defensive move, I instantly ran a scan of my anti-virus software. (Yes, the machine was attacked by the virus even though I have really good anti-spyware and anti-virus software!) I rebooted again. I then ran an update and scan of both softwares again, just to be extra sure. The end result?

After three hours of battle…YES! I’d kicked its BUTT!

Having dealt with this three times in such a short period of time, I’m not going to be overconfident and say I’ve completely defeated it. But my son was able to finish his research without one single peep from the virus.

Maybe the economy is in the toilet. Maybe my hubby could lose his job. But today, I am the victor! And I’m going to savor that thought.

Quote of the Month

"I'm a better mother because I have my writing
and I'm a better writer because of the experiences
of motherhood that have shaped me."

~ Jodi Picoult, novelist ~

Lookin’ for Love?

Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match…

I wonder what you’ll make of this? Some University of Maine new media students created a sort of high-tech matchmaker. It’s kind of like speed dating meets eHarmony and goes mobile.

Essentially, the students designed a computer program where users input information about their personality traits and preferences. That information is then uploaded onto a small, portable unit. The unit is then connected to a shirt or handbag wired with small LED lights. As the user walks around, whenever they come within 30 feet of a personality-compatible person, they literally light up!

The students have named the product the Friend Finder and envision it becoming the next wave in dating services. Their thought is that if people knew more about the personalities of the people they walk past, they might be more likely to take the plunge and start a conversation. The students are now researching ways to make the device smaller and less expensive.

Here’s a preview of how it works…




So, instead of playing old-fashioned eye contact games, flirting from across the room, and eventually wading your way through small talk, potential dateables can now cut right to the chase.

“Well, we’ll obviously like each other, wanna go catch a movie this weekend?”

I’m trying to picture my teen walking around on a college campus next year with her heart-light glowing for the world to see. Hmmm…

So what do you think? Cool idea…or not?

Today's Lesson: No Worries 101


Three people approached me in the past 48 hours with the exact same question, spoken in the exact same tone: “So, how do you feel about Ashleigh going to Guatemala this summer?” This question was always followed by a loaded pause that seemed filled with unspoken thoughts such as “are you a stressed-out basket case?” Or possibly “are you nuts allowing your baby to travel far, far away like that?”

Truth time: I am a bit of a worrier. I know, I know, those of you who know me well are surprised (cough) to learn that fact. I struggle with that area of my life even though I know worrying doesn’t help anything. And I’ll admit, when my 17-year-old daughter first broached the subject of participating in a Central American mission trip, I was a bit surprised. And of course, I made the critical mistake of “Googling” Guatemala.

When will I learn?

Just like when you start investigating medical issues going on within your body, “Googling” isn’t always the best idea. You can really freak yourself out that way.

But my daughter said to me, “I really feel God wants me to do this, mom.”

C’mon, how can I argue with that?

So by the time she’d applied, and submitted her 15-page application, my hubby and I were fine with it. We felt it would be an awesome growth experience for her, both spiritually and emotionally. We were also secure in the knowledge that, if somehow, she was unable to raise the almost $3,000 she needed to go, we would be able to help her out. Well, that was several months ago. We didn’t figure on this big ‘ol economic downturn having such a personal impact on us.

Our daughter recently found out she was approved for the trip. A slight glitch caused her application’s approval to be delayed. She immediately began actively fundraising, but her first installment is due in less than two weeks. And we no longer have the funds to back her up.

So now, I’m realizing this is a growth experience emotionally and spiritually for me as well. Not only in letting my baby, my precious 17-year-old, taller-and-often-more-mature-than-me baby, take this trip (far, far away), but letting go of my worries and concerns over the money part as well. Realizing that if the Big Guy wants her to go, if she’s meant to go, then the money will come, right?

Yup. We’re in the midst of a lesson in faith—let go, and let God.

Now, with all that being said, once we’re actually driving her to the airport--um, yeah. It very well could be freak-out time for mom.

Image by: Arturo Avila